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year end rambling….

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I’ve been pondering, yes more than usual, and I think that I am going to throw some of my thoughts out there.  No order, no goal.

I’m sick and tired of the economy.  And seeing as I am part of it, I’m going on strike.  For the year 2017 I will only buy necessities like food and toilet paper. And of course home repairs, car repairs, and vet bills…..but you get the idea.  F-them.

About social media, yeah it sucks.  It time sucks and it can be a wasteful distraction from better things.  I mean seriously, you’d feel one hundred times better if you took a nap rather than spend an hour on Facebook. Cutting back, but not cutting out.

And regarding Donald, I dont want to hear what he tweeted.  Until a story is actually news worthy, I’m tuning the Donald out.  Can I tell you something? When I hear his name my stomach literally turns.  He, and the mention of him, makes me physically sick.

I will support issue that are dear to my heart.  Mother Theresa once said,

“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.”

I never understood it until this year.  It’s that mentality that I have to carry to get through this f-up world.  War and social issues are complicated and there is just way too much negativity.  My body can’t take any additional turmoil.  So I hope this year, to support some of the most simplest causes protecting human rights, animal rights and our environment.

You do know I am extremely liberal.  And by the way, I am proud of that.

I made a list to live by, for my daily grind….it’s a bit over reaching.   I can’t find it now. Shit.  I forget everything.  It was things to do everyday.  Making life habits.  Now I have to think it all up again.

  1. read
  2. give something
  3. do art
  4. play with dogs
  5. write something
  6. I cant remember… probably yoga….I’ve been meaning to take that up for years.

Anyway you get the idea.  I just can’t waste another year filling my head with all the crap in the world that I can not control.

Those are my thoughts for now. Just ramblings …. I hope to be writing better stuff real soon…..Carry on and cheers!

The time has come to do some math

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Yes it’s going to be a new year. And yes I am excited about it.  Why? I don’t know.  I suppose its a results of many years of conditioning.

Here the thing about my new year, I did a little math equation and to tell you the truth it kind of blew my socks off. I’ll share it below:

 1 hour of FB per day x 365 days = 365 hours

If you are at all like me, there are days I don’t go on at all, and other days where it feels like I can’t stay off.  In any case, it’s all time and every little bit adds up. Even if you are waiting in line or at a soccer practice it’s time taken.

365 hours / 24 hours in a day = 15.208 days per year

That is more than a two week vacation.  This blew my mind.

I’m not saying I will quit FB, nor am I suggesting anyone else to stop using the beast.  I’m only offering some insight to something that has been on my mind and that I hope to curtail.  Especially because I have been known to complain about not having enough time, and yet I have used my time poorly.

I have some lofty goals this coming year.  Why I chose 2016 may have to do with the fact that 2015 went by so fast that I feel like I missed the entire year.  Flat out missed it.  So yes, this is my resolution-to be aware and conscience of my minutes.

I wish you all a beautiful time ahead.

Cheers to all.

back at it again-maybe, and the keys to life.

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How’s that for a commitment?  Not too forceful, and probably not anything anyone would believe but myself. I have had a great many days to figure out just how I want to live my life, and that’s a good thing because while thinking about it I WAS living my life.

I’ve got it down to a few simple goals, simple in that they are all things that I can control should I choose to.  Not simple at all to do.  That takes discipline.  I never like that word. Discipline. Sounds too hard. Discipline is what great athletes have, you know, the ones that make it, and say they practiced everyday of their lives since they could walk.  Yuck!  I would be too bored to have done that.

But now, in my wisdom, I understand that discipline is just another way of saying do what you like, often, and always, and don’t stray. It means do all the things that you need to do to reach or achieve your goal. It means line up everything in favor of what you want.  It means focus.  Focus hard.  It also means filter.  You have to filter out the distractions.  Whether these distractions are internal, as in your mind – your thoughts, or external as in everything and everyone in the whole dang world.  Filtering and focus are both at your disposal, and they are the best f*cking tools you’ll every know.

Oh don’t forget belief, self-confidence.  You have to, have to, believe that you can do whatever it is you want.  I don’t care one bit if it is a realistic goal or not.  Judging your goal is a major distraction.  Don’t do it…and never let anyone else do it (judge your goal) for you!

Discipline, focus, filter and believe. The keys to everything.

Please add any other keys in the comment section below.

It’s a great day!  Enjoy.

because I said I would

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The other day, I stumbled onto this little known non-profit it’s called,”because I said I would”  The premise behind the concept is that when people are true to their word and follow through on their promises and commitments the world becomes a better place.   I tend to agree.  Also the action of writing your promise down on paper really can solidify your commitment.   I found the “because I said I would” concept completely complimentary with my Dad’s mantra “be true to yourself”, which is now how I live.

Rewind back to last year when we struggled to raise funds for our dog, Batman’s, wheelchair.  It was during that process I really understood how difficult it is to raise funds after you have tapped out your resources.  So I promised myself that I would donate once a month to a cause.  Not to a huge corporate fundraising machine, but rather to an individual or a family.   (In my mind someone that’s who really needs it and I know the money goes directly to their fund, a win-win)

I wasn’t sure how I could keep this commitment because money is so very tight.  I had to come up with an amount that I could handle regardless of what other emergency pops up, and they pop up all the freakin’ time so I settled on ten dollars.  How could I remember to give ten dollars?  My answer; ten on the tenth.

So here you have my first “because I said I would.”  10 dollars every tenth of the month to a fundraiser on youcaring.com. ( a free fundraising site)

What will you do because you said you would?

Cheers!

Source: Suze Orman 8 Qualities of Success

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The Eight Qualities of Success

  • Harmony is when there is complete agreement between what you think, say and do.
  • Balance is the reward of harmony; it is when you are most calm and content because there is no disconnect between your thoughts, words and actions.
  • Courage. Is the ability to make choices that bring harmony and balance. Courage is not always about action. It takes courage to do nothing, rather than do something that you do not believe in or understand.
  • Generosity. True generosity is an offering; given freely and out of pure love. No strings attached. No expectations. Time and love are the most valuable possession you can share.
  • Happiness: bubbles up when the first four qualities are in abundance. Happiness is not a luxury. It is a necessity. When we are happy we are in the best possible place to be good to ourselves and those we love.
  • Wisdom: is the ability to make the right decisions at the right time. Wisdom alerts you when you are out of balance or having trouble summoning courage. It is your inner voice guiding you through and past the noise.
  • Cleanliness: When there is clarity and organization in your thoughts and your physical space you can more easily access the inner wisdom and courage that makes harmony and balance achievable.
  • Beauty is what you possess when you incorporate the seven preceding qualities into your life.

didn’t make it pass day 3

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So I didn’t make it pass day three of “May Cause Miracles.”  That’s right, it was so easy, I said.  A snap.  “I can do this!”

But life has a way of interrupting even the best of intentions.  I mean if all I had to do was to take care of myself, just me, no one else or no other creature, or no other anything, just maybe I could make it past day 3.  I don’t know.

I told myself I would catch up, or start over, I have not done either yet.  My plate of life is so full right now with……business issues, legal issues, my Mother is ill, my children aren’t settled, a house in disrepair, oh  and let’s not forget  the tax issues they just found from 2004!

There is even more than that, but that’s about all I care to put into writing.

I think I have done it all wrong.  I must have.  Everything. Wrong.  Since the beginning of my life I must have listened to the wrong people and taken in the wrong messages.  I don’t know how else I could have arrived at this place at this time.  Because how? Tell me how ?  One person can really want a better existence yet can’t ever figure out how to get it?

For the most part I have tried to do the right thing.  Even as a small child I knew not to belittle or mock others, I stood up for the underdog ALWAYS.  I would think, what would be best? What would be nice? What would be helpful?

Yet here I am, a struggling mess.

I can be sarcastic but only in fun.  You know a dry sense of humor….that alone shouldn’t have banished me to this place.

I eat healthy.  Food and weight isn’t my issue.   I do not long for material items.  I dont want or need the latest greatest anything.  I just want a simple peaceful life.

Maybe someone has a voodoo doll of me and they are sticking it with pins.  That’s about all I can figure, or I was a horrible person in another lifetime.   Oy Vey!  

Cheer!

I repeat.

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Old habits die hard.

Old belief are nearly impossible to kill.

I am moving to a different journey.   And it isn’t because I have succeeded at this journey, it’s because of what I have learned over the course of trying to de-clutter.   You see it’s not the clutter that is causes the problem, it is my mind.  NO matter what problem you see in your life, if you can identify it and recognize it, then you already have everything needed to fix it.

I have spent the last two years doing everything in my power, ( at least I thought I was)  to change my life.

Only the other day I looked around and saw a “repeat” of everything I wanted to change and all that I wanted to leave behind.  My new small house, within a a 9 month period, has acquired all characteristics that I didn’t like about our old house.  Why is that?

This is why; and I want you to pay close attention –It’s my mind.  It’s my thoughts.  It is my beliefs.  I fall into the same old patterns.  I am was on a replay loop. So of course everything would be the same, there was no chance of it ever changing. No chance whatsoever.

My symptoms:  procrastination, lack of focus, unwillingness to let go, believing that another day it will be different, and making excuses.

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I will tell you I have succeeded in some areas.  I have conquered any weight issues I used to have, and I am closer than ever to resolving the issues with my family of origin.  So now is the time I need to work on me.

My recent readings have helped me to clearly see this and so I have an understanding of what I need to do.  These are the book so far that have made a significant impact:

Love yourself, like your life depends on it.

Super Brain

You Can Heal Your Life

In addition to these I am reading the Power of Now and Tao the Ching

I am giving you these books as insight into my current journey.   I now know I have to seriously change my auto- pilot repetitive thought patterns in order to be happy and free.   And if you find yourself in the same boat, you might want to pick one of these books up and read.  I found them inspiring and helpful.

I have to concentrate on me.  All else will follow.

As always Cheers!