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The time has come to do some math

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Yes it’s going to be a new year. And yes I am excited about it.  Why? I don’t know.  I suppose its a results of many years of conditioning.

Here the thing about my new year, I did a little math equation and to tell you the truth it kind of blew my socks off. I’ll share it below:

 1 hour of FB per day x 365 days = 365 hours

If you are at all like me, there are days I don’t go on at all, and other days where it feels like I can’t stay off.  In any case, it’s all time and every little bit adds up. Even if you are waiting in line or at a soccer practice it’s time taken.

365 hours / 24 hours in a day = 15.208 days per year

That is more than a two week vacation.  This blew my mind.

I’m not saying I will quit FB, nor am I suggesting anyone else to stop using the beast.  I’m only offering some insight to something that has been on my mind and that I hope to curtail.  Especially because I have been known to complain about not having enough time, and yet I have used my time poorly.

I have some lofty goals this coming year.  Why I chose 2016 may have to do with the fact that 2015 went by so fast that I feel like I missed the entire year.  Flat out missed it.  So yes, this is my resolution-to be aware and conscience of my minutes.

I wish you all a beautiful time ahead.

Cheers to all.

Post Positive Images- Baltimore Protests

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We all are aware that the media has taken all the good of the Baltimore protests and turn it into the destruction of the Baltimore riots!  I ask everyone to counter this misrepresentation by posting of peaceful photos of demands for justice.  Do it anywhere and everywhere you can. Thank you and spread the word!

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Protests in Baltimore After Funeral Held For Baltimore Man Who Died While In Police Custody

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New year, another chance? pffffft !

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So many times we think of the new year as the starting line.  The moment in time when we are going to get our shit together and make a real difference in the time we spend here on earth.  How silly is that?  I mean so many years I have considered the New Year as the day of change.  I waited for that very date to start, to be better, then over the weeks I stop, and I usually failed.

This new year is different.  No, really it is.  Why? or How? you ask.  I’m about to tell you.

Here’s the thing.  Every second we have the power to change.  But we get lazy, we become out of tune with ourselves and many times just completely over powered by circumstance we do not control.  We listen to those who do not have our best interests at heart.  We follow ideals that are impossible to achieve.  And we worship the wrong gods.  This is what has to end.  We can only be led to follow the wrong direction if we stop paying attention to ourselves.

It’s all about personal awareness.  It’s all about keeping the life you want forefront in you thoughts and actions.  Its about really making what you want into a priority.  Not only on January first, but during every second of you life.

Now I am not saying this is easy, heck no. If it was easy I certainly would have mastered it by now.  It’s not easy.  For some reason, however, this time, I don’t see my life as drive, guts, or ambition.  I do not criticize myself based on achievements or willpower or anything thing like that.  All I see as real is awareness.  Be aware.  Recognize your thoughts and change them to align with who you want to be.  Identify your feelings and process them.  Calibrate your actions to fall in line with your life and only your life.

Everything will fall in place if you remain aware.  Get ready to be amazed and enjoy!

Cheers!

Source: Suze Orman 8 Qualities of Success

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The Eight Qualities of Success

  • Harmony is when there is complete agreement between what you think, say and do.
  • Balance is the reward of harmony; it is when you are most calm and content because there is no disconnect between your thoughts, words and actions.
  • Courage. Is the ability to make choices that bring harmony and balance. Courage is not always about action. It takes courage to do nothing, rather than do something that you do not believe in or understand.
  • Generosity. True generosity is an offering; given freely and out of pure love. No strings attached. No expectations. Time and love are the most valuable possession you can share.
  • Happiness: bubbles up when the first four qualities are in abundance. Happiness is not a luxury. It is a necessity. When we are happy we are in the best possible place to be good to ourselves and those we love.
  • Wisdom: is the ability to make the right decisions at the right time. Wisdom alerts you when you are out of balance or having trouble summoning courage. It is your inner voice guiding you through and past the noise.
  • Cleanliness: When there is clarity and organization in your thoughts and your physical space you can more easily access the inner wisdom and courage that makes harmony and balance achievable.
  • Beauty is what you possess when you incorporate the seven preceding qualities into your life.

Start today.

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I am deeply troubled by the state of our country.

I deplore the past actions and the more recent actions of our police force.

We are living in what can be best describe as a police state, the early stages.

Moreover, I can say with confidence that racism is rampant and it can’t hide any longer.

The global and national protests give me hope.

We are not alone.

I pray our voices stay strong, loud and undeterred.

We can stand united. We will be heard.

We can teach tolerance.

We can choose love over hate.

Join us.

Start today.

Speak up, even if your voice shakes.

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ericG“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

“I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” ~ Elie Wiesel

“Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci

Wow, patting self on back.

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So I have something to show you:

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Ta da!

storage unit empty and gone on Halloween 2013
storage unit empty and gone on Halloween 2013

It was a long time coming but we finally got rid of this stuff and the monthly fee to save it.

We still have some items at my Mother’s house and in our garage and basement but we are getting so much closer.  During the course of this effort , many things have taken time away from our goal.  I say that not as an excuse but rather a reality check for myself.  You see I always think I can get everything down FAST!   Life doesn’t work that way.  More important situations come around that you have to tend to, or in many cases that you want to tend to.

It’s been a tough lesson, changing goals, deadlines, and lowering expectations….but I am better for it.  I’m still cluttered, but only half as crazy as I was before.

Cheers!

against the odds- 40 day attempt

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Have you ever felt like you were ready to change, to start something to better you life but you felt restricted by people around you?  It’s like trying to change life long patterns that no longer fit your dreams, and people around you take every chance to mock or dismiss your ideas.

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I have felt that way for several years now.  And I believe I allowed those outside influences to make my attempts at changing terribly difficult.

Face it, we all know there are productive methods for example, get yourself out of a rut. But when you talk about it, there seems someone is always more than ready to tell you how it won’t work, or you’ll never stick with it.  Then they might go as far to point out several of your past failed attempts to change.  That is the sort of thing that crushes me.

Even changing my eating habit is still to this day met with sideways glances and grimacing faces.   Usually from people who are closest to me.  “You eat that?! Gross.”   They may even mock where I read about it and challenge it’s validity.  In any case, the negative responses really effect me.  I wish they didn’t do this , but they do.

Some say you have to ignore them, easier said then done.   Others say you have to remove them from your life, and surround your self with more like-minded people.  Again easier said then done.

So today, I have to ignore them.  And tomorrow I have to ignore them, and for the rest of my life I have to ignore them.  I have to look past what they say, and stay on my path.  This is going to be hard, because my auto-pilot reactions is to self doubt.  My thoughts race to:  ” They are right, I do fail all the time. I will never be able to change.”  And the words I hear, plus the word I then tell myself  reinforce constant failures as my truth.

I am going to try.  Again.  I know that this will all be on me.  If I fail one day, I will have to get back up.  It all sounds so cliche, but I have no other options.  I have to gather every once of encouragement no matter if I find it.

Right now this is my guide:  A book:   May Cause Miracles  by Gabrielle Bernstein

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I’ll blog about  my 40 day journey.  Cheers.