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Geez. I don’t lie. I try not to lie. I can’t remember anything , so I am no good at lying and I don’t feel good if I lie. So I really don’t lie.

I can keep a secret. I am the best secret keeper I know. I never betray a trust. But I want you to know, I don’t hold on to secrets. Meaning, I hold them and throw them away, maybe file them away is a better term. Secrets belong to those who share their life with me. Those secrets belong to the person who told the secret. If someone trusts me, I feel it is my most important responsibility to protect that trust.

I have always believed this. It’s nothing that I can change or that I want to change. It part of me like my face. It is just there.

So when I get lied to or when someone betrays my trust, I am deeply offended. I lose total respect for the person that lied to me. That’s it. I cut them out, or at least I cut them off. I mentally attempt to erase them. Not so easy when the person is a relative.

The inspiration quote I posted yesterday is very interesting to me.

“Lying is done with words and also with silence.”- Adrienne Rich

Take some time to think about this. It may prove helpful. If you are having an important conversation, and someone isn’t actively participating, it may be a clue to their deceit. Keep alert, pay attention to body language and tone. Changing the subject is another red flag.

I have learned that if someone lies once they will lie again. I have learned that liars think it is okay to lie. They easily understand when someone lies, and they go about their day as if nothing happened. Liars hang with other liars. “Birds of a feather” still holds true.

Obviously, I have a low tolerance for liars but I know so many of them. This often puts me in a position of being the oddball. The one who “expects too much out of other people.” I get criticized for expecting people to not lie in general. Who knew standing up for the truth would be met with criticism.

I believe everyone has the right and the responsibility to protect themselves. So don’t put up with any liars they will only hurt you over and over again.

Liars never rarely change. But the truth eventually comes to light. And for that we should be grateful.

Tip: If you call a liar out they will become angry, it’s better to recognize them for what they are and ignore them.

Inspiration: “No man has a good enough memory to be a successful liar.”- Abraham Lincoln

One-day one-thing: Acknowledge who has your back, nurture that relationship.

4 thoughts on “Lies

    Lori DiNardi said:
    March 22, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    I can relate to this one. I can’t lie because … well … I just can’t. For me, honesty is my nature. I even have a hard time pretending I like someone’s haircut when it looks hideous. I guess it’s more like … I don’t know how to be fake. As far as not calling a liar out, you’re right, they do get angry. I have one in my family, and still love this person dearly. I just let them go on thinking they fooled me and we get along fine. Sometimes I think they even believe their own lies, and I think it’s kind of sad. I guess I’ve grown forgiving in my middle-age.Glad to meet a fellow truth teller. Thanks for this post.

      MsRat responded:
      March 22, 2012 at 4:48 pm

      Thank you for your comment, I know exactly what you mean about being fake, it’s so difficult….I can’t do it either.

      I think I will reach forgiveness, once I get to a safe place clear of the potential for damaged caused by lies…..I think that time is coming soon.


    bridget said:
    March 22, 2012 at 9:55 pm

    I married a liar.

      MsRat responded:
      March 23, 2012 at 9:02 am

      I am so sorry to hear that. That has to be really difficult, if not unbearable. I can’t even imagine. ((hugs to you))

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