She did it, Can I?

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I stumbled on this blog yesterday, and I can not stop thinking about it. Primarily I read about the woman herself. I wanted to know and learned what made her succeed at changing her life. More about me -How I got to paradise.

I believe that if we really stop.  Stop what we are doing at this moment, and ask ourselves, “Is this where I want to be?”  Many of us may answer, “not really.” Other will answer, “yes.”  They need not read any further.

I’m in the “not really” category.  I thought I was getting closer to figuring it all out and then poof, I determined I had to adjust my thinking.   Which has lead me nowhere, but back to limbo of not being able to formulate concrete goals.

I didn’t place my bid on the No.3 (small) house.  I woke in the middle of the night and I thought OMG what if I can’t sell it, I’ll be stuck there forever.  And that quite frankly scared the sh*t out of me.

All the cheer-leading I did yesterday didn’t even work for me. That’s another topic for a post, those who can tell others what to do, but can’t seem to do it themselves. I fell back to second guessing myself, and asking myself,” wow is this it?  Is this the final destination?”  I couldn’t make it be.  I couldn’t pull the trigger and commit to this area.  Even though we have other commitments here, my gut told me not to make that decision. At least not right now.

I listened to my intuition – I get credit for that , because in the past I have ignored my gut feelings thus leading to my own peril.

We [I] need to determine what it is that keeps us inside the boxes we have made for ourselves.  The boxes can be our location, our job, our eating habits, or exercise non-habits, it can be any box at all.  It’s what ever has you stuck.  I don’t like feeling stuck.  Feeling stuck is both terrifying and depressing.

So I am returning to square one.  Back to the basics. Time to reevaluate everything.  Again.  But know we have time, because it’s December.  And in December the world stops for awhile. There are holidays, and we even close the business for a week.  I am going to follow the 5 tips below:

1. Recognize that you are in a rut and have lost your ability to dream beyond your zip code.  First step always acknowledge the issue. (easy, check, done)

2. Determine that you are willing to make real changes in your life.  Start with small changes that you can turn into habits.  It takes 21 day for something to become a habit. (so I have read) Today is a good day to start.

3. Set goals, small and big, set at least 5 for starters.

4. Intention: concentrate on your attention on your goal with every choice you make.  Question everything, does this get me closer to my goal or not?  Only participate in those things that are in line with your goals.

5. Follow through.  No excuses.

At the end of December, review what you have accomplished and make 5 new goals for the next month.  This will at least get you[me] moving in a direction rather than,  floating aimlessly inside a box of limbo.

I recall hoping 2011 would be better than 2010, and I find I am wishing for the same thing this year.  Only this year it has to get better, or I may become a drug addict for real.  (and oddly enough that doesn’t scare me :)

I seriously can’t take much more.

Cheers!

Tip: Don’t beat yourself up, most people have no clue how to change their  lives.

Inspiration: ” Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are. “- Jose Ortega y Gasset

One-day one-thing: Clean your work area in you home, this will help you to gain focus.

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2 thoughts on “She did it, Can I?

    Jt Clough | Big Island Dog said:
    December 1, 2011 at 10:41 am

    Mahalo for including me in your inspiration to move forward.

    Good on you for listening to your intuition. Once I had decided to move to the Big Island Hawaii, I had more than one close friend try to talk me out of it. Couldn’t believe I was going to put my house on the market in the lowest of selling times, wouldn’t I get island fever, etc?

    Yet I knew this is where I belonged. And granted it was A LOT of undoing, getting rid of all the stuff. Yes, it was incredibly emotional, and yes I figured out I really was carrying much more baggage than I told myself I was.

    I want to encourage you and those like you to keep moving forward. It is possible. I honestly live in paradise, with not too many things, a way to make a living doing what I love and a quality of life with time and experiences that did not exist had I not taken a giant leap to change.

      MsRat responded:
      December 1, 2011 at 11:54 am

      Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, you are a true inspiration.

      I can only imagine the “push-back” you received while telling people your plans, and that is on top of your own doubts.

      Like they say if “it was easy everyone would do it.” Congratulations!

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